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My Sincere Apologies for Fistula Ladies My Sincere Apologies for Fistula Ladies

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My Sincere Apologies for Fistula Ladies

To all fistula Ladies I would like to offer my sincere apologies. Before my second surgery I was opptomistic and therefore did not feel sorrow for my situation and declared off of this site. Reality has finally set in. I am 15 days post op from my second fistula surgery. I have stints in both ureters still have my supra cathater and no date as to when they will be removed. Yesterday my husband drove me over an hour to my urologists office because I had severe pain, bladder spasms etc. My urologist refused to see me and literley set me loose. He sent his nurse in to tell me that he would remove either my stints or my cathater and as far as the pain there was nothing more he could do. He informed me that I was to return to work if I like, drive my car and resume housework as normal. He will see me in 2 weeks and review my case at that time. We drove home and after 3 darvocets and then found an old bottle of vicadin of which I took one I was finally able to sleep for 2 hours last night. Also my husband has informed me that as soon as life is "normal" for me he would like a separation. He never pictured I would balloon up to a 190 lbs. I weighed 120 lbs when I married him. My gyn told me to start walking to loose weight and I am even though every step is torture. My reality is that I have scars going vertically & horizontally across my stomach. In a contest with Frankenstein I would win hands down for hideousness. I am not writing for sympathy but to enlighten anyone out there headed for fistula surgery to take a second look at all the options and apologize for making light of my situation before. As far as my weight goes my husband is a gourmet cook and does all the cooking. For supper last week I asked him to bake me some brussel sprouts in the oven with olive oil. They were delicious and I ate them all. Afterwards he told me his secret was he fried them in bacon grease. Ironic isn't it. Another irony is he is no small man himself as he weighs 250 lbs. I worked at a casino of which I have been off work since the middle of November and even if I was able to do my job which involves a lot of bending & heavy lifting I would not be able to pass the drug test unless I gave up pain pills. I also would not fit into my uniform with the cathater bag on my leg and they are very strict about adjusting things while on camera. Anyway before I sunk into my depression I thought I would write. I only hope that my case is the exception and know that most of my problems are because I live in Kansas and have drs from Missouri which is having many problems with malpractice right now. Also my attorney seems to want no part of me and does not even return my calls so I guess I have no case against the original dr that treated me as a hypo chondriac for 2 years and even put that in my records. By the way my gyn has filed for a review of her license to practice medicine. Good luck to all & please do not respond to this thread as my husband reads all on the computer.
I know things could be worse for me but right now I don't know how and I also know many many sisters are in much worse shape and soon I will acknowledge that.
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