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Unread 04-22-2003, 10:43 AM
NO Patience

Hello Sisters

I have had it. I'm 7 mths post a total hyst and bowel surgery.
I have no patience at all I feel so angry, and frustrated. I still have alot of pain. I can't adjust to my new body. I'm taking Hrt if i can i need to just name all my feelings and symptoms.
husband has had enough of me
he says i'm so differant now and strange
no desire for him at all
I still have so much pain where they operated on my bowels
i get so fatiqued i cant talk and my skin is so senstive
my body aches my feet swell and my hand goes numb
gained about 30 pounds on top of all the other pounds i have
i need to get a job but i dont know if i can even work if i wanted too
i miss a good night sleep
I even miss my period
never to have any children
I fell so old and not like a woman
memory loss
cant think straight
everyone expects me to feel better and get going and i cant
i have been a disappointment to people too

Everything i do has to be so well planned because of the pain. I could cry just talking about all this. I really don't have anyone to talk to about it. I always seem to be the one who helps, but I cant do it anymore. I need help. Physically and emotionally. I do believe in God and i know He does get me through but i also tell Him i don't want to feel like this nomore.
thanks for listening to me. Hyster Sister are just the greatest .
Your Sister
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Unread 04-22-2003, 12:04 PM
NO Patience

((((((EYE))))))))) I'm so sorry it's been such a long, hard Road for you

It sounds like some of your symptoms could be related to hormonal unbalance. Have you tried searching the FAQ's on the Hormone Jungle message board? Just click here to get there. You might also want to post in the Hormone Jungle message board where you'll find lots of insight on surgical menopause. Just click here

You might also want to visit the Aching Hearts message board, where you'll find others dealing with some of the same issues you're dealing with. Just click here to find those caring angels.

(((((Sweetie)))))) this surgery is hard to deal with. It's even harder when you're continuing to ache and be tired this long into your recovery. You really need to address these issues with your doctor. It might help him/her help you if you keep a journal of symptoms. I write down things like when the pains occur, what I was doing that day or the day before (might realize I was more active than usual and it might explain some of the symptoms). Keeping a diary will help you remember what and how you're feeling and might show if there is a cycle to your symptoms.

I hope this helps. Sending tons of s your way.
Unread 04-22-2003, 12:25 PM
NO Patience

Been There,

I have had many times where I feel exactly as you described. Someone even accused me of being obsessed with my weight when that was just one of the list. I have no advice except to take it one day at a time. When I have a bad day or (week) I just withdraw & my dh leaves me alone. He knows it will eventually pass.

Keep your chin up,
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Unread 04-22-2003, 01:18 PM
NO Patience


I know where you're coming from, having been chronically ill and in pain for 24 years, but who's counting?

Do pursue avenues that could lead to some relief for you. You can't do it all at once, just decide when and where you want to start and do it at your own pace. I've just recently gotten kind of fed up enough to head out to more doctors and am seeing an osteopath, opthamologist, surgeon and pain management doctor all within the next month. Also try to have your expectations of yourself be realistic and definitely plan some things that make you feel really good, even if they're just hot baths, looking out the window at the spring flowers, birds at the feeder, a trash magazine, whatever lifts your spirits. Meditation and listening to music on my headphones are a couple of things that make me feel good.

Hang in. Things will get better, even if it's just you learning how to cope.

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