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Unread 04-30-2003, 10:38 AM
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Hi. Thanks for all your responses to my first dr. visit. Well, she did a pelvic and brought me into her office and started talking and i felt very faint and almost passed out. I had to be wheeled out and laid down for a while. She said she wants to do surgery, next Thurs. May 9. and did talk about worst case scenario, but to take this first step to see what it is. She said it felt like a mass pushing my uterus forward. She wants to take my uterus, ovaries and then will check every organ while she is in there. How long does this operation usually take? I really hate this waiting. But, I will try to keep busy. I;m wondering what to tell my 17 and 19 yr olds. We are very close but I don't want to scare them. I have already told them that I had an appt with a specialist and I would probably have to have surgery. I think I will just keep it at that until the surgery tells all. Thanks for listening and your prayers.
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Unread 04-30-2003, 11:00 AM
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Sorry, I'm confused!

When you say she is going to "take your uterus and overies" on 9th May do you mean you are having a hysterectomy or she is checking them laprascopically and not removing them? There's a big difference in how long it will take and how long you will take to recover.

Lydia
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Unread 04-30-2003, 11:06 AM
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Glad the appointment is over. My surgery took about 3 hours and I had the hysterectomy, ovaries,omentum, cell washing and lots of organ checking. Luckily the borderline malignancy was contained in the ovaries and he feels he got everything. At 2 weeks I'm feeling great, but it is a long, slow up and down process.
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Unread 04-30-2003, 02:31 PM
Wishing You Good Results

Sounds as if she is going to do a TAH/BSO. Mine was a little over 4 hours because of extra surgery, omentum, lymph node sampling, etc. Yes, the waiting is the worst--hit the pre-op board and post-op board for lots of helpful information.
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Unread 04-30-2003, 06:59 PM
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My surgery was also just over 4 hours. My gynecologist started the surgery and I understand that when the biopsy of the ovarian cyst showed that there was cancer, the surgical oncologist took over the rest of the surgery. As with some of the other ladies here, the doctors removed everything... ovaries, tubes, uterus, cervix, omentum, and even my appendix for good measure! I don't miss any of these although life today is definitely different without them.

Hugs and best wishes to you.
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Unread 05-01-2003, 10:15 AM
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Alybar, I'd like to add that your teens are, IMHO, old enough to be told the truth. The way you pesent that truth will determine how frightening it is to them. I would let them know that a mass has been found that needs to come out and while they're in there, they are going to do a hysterectomy, and although most often these masses are benign, there is still a chance there could be a problem, so they will check closely and take care of the situation. If you don't act scared to death and expecting the worse then they won't be scared to death, most likely. I'm sure they'll be very concerned, but I believe you should level with them, keeping it upbeat and optimistic. I also have a suspicious mass that must be removed, along with everything else in there, and I also have had to tell some people, including my son. The chances are, we'll be okay--but, it may not be benign--and if not, lots of good treatment is available. Good luck dear lady, and keep us posted, okay!!
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Unread 05-01-2003, 10:25 AM
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In reading your other thread below, I'd have to say I would be very concerned too. I hope and pray all is okay. I think Maurinee said it so well. Lots of {{{hugs}}} and well wishes coming your way!!
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Unread 05-01-2003, 11:22 AM
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alybar
I also have 2 teenage sons and I told them going in what we were dealing with. They handled it very well. I'm not sure if they really absorbed the possible seriousness, but at least it was out there. When things came back better than expected it was a pleasant relief for all. I really think talking to them now is best for everyone involved including you. Best wishes!!
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Unread 05-01-2003, 07:31 PM
I agree...

with Harryson & annie, about telling your children. I also have a teenage son he is 16. I told him about my condition the night I found out. I also told him step by step as I found out, so he was with us on the same page so to speak. They may have questions you didn't think of also. I just told my 4 year old that mamma was sick and was going to the hospital to get better.

's and ers to you.
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Unread 05-04-2003, 07:49 AM
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About telling your teens (you didn't say if they are girls or boys). We told my kids (ages 8-16) that I would be having surgery, and my oldest daughter new what kind (she also knew about my endless bleeding, which preceded this). For some time after surgery I still couldn't bring myself to say the C word to them, and kept waiting - till I felt better, for the path. report etc.

Eventually, my daughter started shouting at me one evening when we were alone, that I haven't told her what is going on, so I did. She accepted it very well, and cheered me up more than anyone else. She said something like: you'll see, a year from now you won't even remember any of this happened.

She is still cheering me up, now that I am at the tail-end of radiation. Today she said "in a month you'll feel like a new person". I am a bit concerned that I am "taking away" her childhood by being sick, but there isn't much I can do about that!

I send you best wishes for your surgery, and whatever else you will be facing. The hospital social worker also told me that it is important that people whose chances of a full recovery are good tell people what they have, so that people start to think that cancer is just another disease, and not necessarily a death sentence. It is also good to tell your kids about people they know who have gone through this and are now healthy (there are more than you think, out there, and when they know you are sick, they start telling their story).

Esther
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